On your wavelength, learning to glow, I'm your friend and host, Lobro. Today we're talking about showing up anyway, even though I didn't want to. It's a fitting message for today and it's about the duty of doing what is right and what you're... following through with what you feel like you're meant to do. And if, if I really believe in this show and what it's doing, even if I feel like taking a day off, there's a lot of power and showing up anyway, and that's what I'm turning today's message into. If you didn't know, we're recording. Live on Twitch every Saturday with a pre-show discussion at 10:00 AM

00 PM uh, universal time. Uh, we have discussions about personal development, um, mindfulness, um, we have Glowstick challenges, which are periodic seven week on, one or two week off, challenges where we set goals for ourselves and crack a glowstick at the end as a way to celebrate. And, um, yeah, all sorts of, uh, fun discussions beforehand. If you wanna come join us and then we get into the recording like we're doing now. So. Being aware, that was the first lesson we talked about. When you start to become aware, you start to see yourself in a different way and you start to see things in a different perspective. And with this show being a thing that I believe in wholeheartedly being something that's going to change my life and others because I know I've been meant to do this for a long time and didn't do it. But now I'm doing it. And I am aware of the fact that consistency with anything, not just for yourself, but even for a show, is the smartest choice. Being consistent and showing up each week when you say you will is, is, is valuable. It's, it's saying, it's, it's building trust with your audience and it's building trust with yourself. People always say like, well, I'm not motivated to do that. I, I don't, I'm out of all the motivat. I don't have any motivation. I don't feel like doing it. You got it wrong, and that's why I'm showing up because. As James, I am pretty sure it was James Clear who said something along these lines. I learned it from... motivation follows action. When you start to take action, the motivation will come. I don't, I don't know exactly why I should have prepared it. Right, but this show wasn't prepared. That's the thing. Every week I spend a lot of time preparing each episode. Yeah. I mostly talk off the cuff, but I've prepared, you know several talking points today I wrote it three out four hours ago because I had a hard week and I'm human. I might be the one teaching and sharing this personal development, if you want to call it these principles of awareness, presence and openness."Wave riding", if you will. If I'm gonna be teaching these things, I, I ha I have to live those out, right? And well, someone might say I'm a fraud because like, oh, well, you know, you're the one speaking those things. But didn't, didn't you just say you were having like a hard week and you went through all these things? Well, yeah, I'm human. That's what makes it authentic, right?'Cause even I'm learning, I'm not perfect, but teaching is how we get better at anything. And this, this stuff has been things I've been passionate about for a very long time, which is why I say the show has been meant to happen for a long time. I knew I needed to do it for a long time and I don't know what it was with the timing, but now is right and it feels good. But it's not going to work if I don't show up. So in a way, awareness and being aware is like the undertow that pulls you under if you're not careful, because i'm aware of the fact that I have to do this show, and I didn't prepare this week, and it pulled me under this morning. Because I knew I had to show up anyway. So I have to choose, you know, whether to honor this passion and dream of mine and honor the fact that I know I can help people, that I've changed lives already, and that there are plenty of more people one day I can help and change. It makes me feel responsible to show up, right? Wouldn't you feel responsible to show up? Don't you feel responsible to show up for things in your life? Think about that for a moment. What if you didn't show up for your kid today? No, I'm not gonna get outta bed today. You can't. You don't have a choice. There's sometimes you gotta show up and you have no choice. And then there's times where you have the choice and it's so easy to wanna get out of it, but you show up anyway. It's duty. So I chose to honor that. I don't know, calling that dream, that passion that... destiny that I see for myself, that thing that I know that I'm meant to do, that other people in my life have been telling me to do for a long time. So awareness is that pull back when I wasn't prepared for it. Pulled me right under. And it wouldn't release me until I showed up. Because if I'm gonna ride the wave, be aware, be present, and be open, I can't do that if I don't show up. So it did feel like it dragged me under this morning, but it brought me back to truth, to practice to responsibility... because motivation follows action. As katie says in chat, you gotta get up and do the dang thing. It's true, and there's times where you don't want to and you do it anyway. And how good do you feel when you do? So awareness, simply being aware, rearranges your life naturally on its own. When you're aware that you're aware, awareness, that's a tongue twister. When you're aware that you're aware, awareness rearranges your life until showing up is your only option left. So awareness exposes 'cause it's like a light, right? Awareness is the light, it's the ray type I talked about. It exposes that, I don't know, gap, how do I say this? Awareness. Awareness stretches our identity because when we become aware of things more often, we learn that pretending hurts more than being honest. Does that track? You can look, it's how you frame everything. Awareness is, is how you frame everything. If it's, it's how you look at it. So you could look at your life as if you have all these problems and all these things going on. And, and man, I just, uh, what if, what if you had a cover? Okay, what if. Just humor me for just a second. What if you could have a conversation with God and God exists? Just pretend God existed, that there is a creator. Okay, just pretend and you had a conversation or just, if you can't do that, pretend you're talking to the universe. Just whatever it is that led up to you existing all of the, the, the, cause and effect that had to come for you to exist, billions of years of things to happen for you to be here. How just unlikely it is that you're here. Okay. Whether you're speaking to that or whether you're thinking that you're speaking to God, okay? You could, you could be saying, God comes down that wants to have a conversation with you and you can say, man, it sucks down here like. This is a Michael Singer example. If you haven't read his book. Um, but it's like you're complaining to God about your life, about how terrible it's down to here, man, everybody poops and the news is awful and I don't wanna get up and do anything. And it's just, it's, or you could look at it as, um, well, yeah, there's, yeah, there's beautiful people everywhere. You, there's all sorts of different cultures. There's all sorts of different animals, and it's, it's just, it's a wonderful world out here. You know? It is, it's, it's just about mindset, I guess at the end of the day, I guess what I'm saying is you have a choice. You really, really, really, really do. You can make it that simple, that you have a choice whether you want to be happy or not. Because when this comes down to it showing up anyway, is saying whether, whether or not you want to be happy. Because if I wasn't here, I'd be feeling guilty, I'd be feeling bad about myself. I'd probably be frustrated. You know, you wanna know what it was this week? You wanna know why I was frustrated this week my, my stupid computer. I need to get a better one than what I'm using. I'm producing this entire show and going live and doing all these editing on a MacBook Air with 256 gigabytes of hard drive space and eight gigabytes of ram. If you know anything about computers, that's, that's. That that computer is a dying, uh, type. Those computers don't exist anymore. Like you don't really make computers that small of things anymore. And, and it's been hard to produce this show on top of that, but I have so much passion and energy to do this anyway, that I knew I would feel better if I showed up and it took my wife talking to me, and encouraging me and telling me this too, to remind me that I'm gonna feel good if I do it. Because now that I'm aware of the fact that showing up will make me feel good, now that I'm aware of the fact that showing up is my duty is going to help people, then I gotta be here. I gotta sh I gotta be here. Brene Brown. I love quoting her. She has done a lot for me, uh, specifically around vulnerability and, um, being okay with. Talking about your life and the meta discussion of what's going on with me, this, this is how, this is how any artist or creator makes anything. They take that energy and they transmute it into something else. That's alchemy, right? Turning lead into gold is saying, yes, my situation's tough, yes, it stinks, I can wallow in it, or I can be grateful for the fact that I've got a computer that works and just deal with what I've got for now until I can get something better. Man, I wish I could have told myself this three days ago. You must give up the life you plan so as to have the life that is waiting for you. Joseph Campbell, if I want to have something different, if I want this show to be my, my job, my career. If I want this to be something that changes people's lives, that pays for my bills, that helps me and helps others, I gotta show up. I gotta be here. And that means I gotta do things that are unlike the comfortable. Yes, it would've been comfortable to sit on the patio this morning, enjoy the nice weather with my dog and do nothing, or I could show up. I could help you by giving you the message that I know is gonna help somebody. Remember I told you, Viktor Frankl said between stimulus and response, there's a space, and in that space is our power to choose. And awareness makes denial expensive, doesn't it? That's why it's the first principle of wave riding. If you got, if you're gonna get out of the undertow and back up again, you're gonna get back on the horse, you're gonna get back on the bicycle if you're gonna get back on to the train, whatever your analogy is, if you're gonna do it, remember your why. My why is you. My why is I know that there are people out there who need this. And I have felt that way for a very long time, and many of people have told me that. And I'm, I'm, I'm not saying that boastfully, I'm saying that with gratitude. I've had the honor and privilege to help people, to encourage people to chase their dreams as I'm doing mine. Awareness makes denial expensive. When you're aware of your dreams and what you're supposed to do, it makes saying no today to being here a lot harder. We're doing a Glowstick challenge right now for seven weeks, and you know what mine was? I said I was gonna do seven episodes, so even if I didn't show up today, I was gonna have to record this episode. That was my promise to myself. So why not just be here? I've done episodes off the cuff before. No, I did not write a whole lot of show notes for this. I wrote it this morning. Usually I spend weeks planning, scheduling, studying for episodes. But there's gonna be times I don't have that forethought and proactiveness to make it happen. So think of this as your call, not for inspiration, but for integrity. If you told people you were gonna show up and you don't, what does that say about you? I've been telling people about all this energy I have about being back and how I feel like there's this quiet confidence behind the show.'cause I, I just feel like there's a lot of creative energy here and I can just feel the show succeeding and being a thing that people will find valuable one day. And it may not be now, it may take time for it to grow just like anything else that we do. But I'm sharing the meta story of me going through this. So you know that I'm human and that this experience is totally normal. You're gonna experience the same thing when you learn or do anything new, and you're gonna fail at it and you might miss, you might not show up, but if you don't give back up again, it's not gonna happen. So I showed up today anyway because I knew that my responsibility. Given to me through my awareness is to follow through. So it's almost as if that first principle of wave riding, awareness, is saying you have to follow through. You have to keep showing up. Awareness makes comfort impossible at least long before it makes change easy. So when you learn information about yourself, you learn that through awareness and you become responsible for that knowledge. You are no longer ignorant. You are now aware of it, and you're responsible for that knowledge. When I became aware of this dream that I call The Lobro Show, the Wave Rider, the Wave Riders, the Wave Rider Society, our community, beautiful community that we have on Discord, which by the way, I, please check us out. Go to any web browser, Lobro.community and you can join us. We have Glowstick challenges on a regular basis, um, encouragement, it's a genuine, authentic place where people help and encourage each other through life. It's always been that we've very rarely had true drama in this community. It, it, it, it's rare because we're all very genuine and authentic people and willing to have conversations with one another. So in any way, I feel responsible for showing up to you and being present. How can I be present to you guys if I'm not even here? So I said it's all about framing things. It's all in the way that you look at it. You can look at life as if everything is hard and this sucks. Or you can say, I have the privilege of going through this problem while I have a roof over my head while I have food on my plate while all my bills are taken care of, and maybe they're not. Maybe you, you have to be grateful for even something less or more. I don't, I don't know. I don't even know why I'm comparing by saying less or more. My point is, we all, we all can find perspective and gratitude, and if you're devoted to your dream, then devotion is like discipline wearing work clothes. I put this jacket on every show, or at least I try to remember to. It's like part of my uniform. It's discipline, showing up and putting this on each time. Yes, it's a, it's a homage to Fred Rogers, but it's discipline. It's showing up, it's putting it on and saying, I'm here. Discipline is your devotion at work, right? You have to be responsible for your knowledge. It's not a mythic act. It's one small step at a time. This morning I woke up, I still didn't want to do the show, but I knew I had the duty to. So what did I do? I started writing the episode. It was one small thing. I just had to act. I had to find the smallest step I was willing to do and do that. I said last week that fear is a compass. If I am afraid to show up today, I should be showing up. I had a whole message about why, right? Motivation follows motion. You have to act. Action is the antidote to apathy. It is the smallest step you're willing to do will set you forward on that path. I took almost no small steps towards it this week, but I took one this morning and here I am'cause I can do anything for five minutes. You start doing something, you know, you, you ended up doing it for a long time. And I got into it this morning and I was able to show up. Yes, I have the responsibility to show up, but I, I still want to be here. And I'm grateful that I get to be here. I was complaining about a computer. I have a roof over my head. Three beautiful, amazing daughters, an amazing wife, and a dog. A computer that works. I'm grateful for what I have, so I shouldn't be looking at this as if, dang, this stinks. My situation, You know, is awful when it's can easily be reframed, first of all, and second of all, you could, you can reframe it as I have the gr, I have the privilege to be their dad and show up every day. I have the privilege to do this show and for people to be affected by it. I'm responsible to show up for that privilege. I can't have that privilege if I don't keep showing up for it. I'm laughing at myself now. Every time you show up, even if you're unready, you're retraining yourself to be ready. Right? I think. Half the reason, I think half the reason why the placebo effect is real is because it's simply the fact that we believed it was and it affected our life. Your simple fact of believing that you can opens up opportunities that you wouldn't see otherwise, and that is true for showing up. If I don't show up, I'm not gonna get the opportunities afforded to me that I would only receive by showing up. If I wanna be lucky, fortunate, I have to keep showing up. Luck & fortune. Come when you are consistent. Because you're, you're looking for those opportunities. You're trying to see them. It's like, it's like the red car phenomenon, right? You've never see, you don't really notice many red cars these days, but as soon as you buy one, you see one everywhere, right? It, I realize it's a super generic example, but it's true for so many things. It wasn't in your awareness until you were aware of it. Right back to awareness, circling back. When you're aware that you're aware and you notice yourself, you become aware of action that you wouldn't have otherwise done or been aware of. Without that awareness, without showing up, without doing the thing that you said you're supposed to do, that you promised yourself you're gonna do. Brene Brown said, show up and be seen even when you can't control the outcome. So when resistance rises, what are we supposed to do? Open up. It brings us back to our three principles, doesn't it? Awareness, presence, and openness. I have to be aware of it. I'm aware of my dream, so I'm responsible for it. If I'm gonna be present, I gotta show up. And if I'm gonna do any of this, I can't resist it. Resisting reality is fruitless. It's like, it's like all that time I spent resisting and being frustrated with the situation instead of opening up and just allowing it to be well, could have been a lot different, right. If I was open. Open. Being open means not fighting reality. It means, it means accepting it. Accepting what? I'm not saying accept reality as it is, but I, I am saying that. I'm not saying like, woe is you or woe is me. That's my I. That's what I'm trying to clarify here, but you do have to accept the reality of things exactly as they are if you're ever going to move forward. So ironically, the undertow of awareness this morning really shook me and then I had to be aware and present and open for all this to come to fruition today. Keeping my heart open is continuing to love what I do. Keeping my heart open is showing up and being seen, just like I said, right? That's keeping my heart, heart open. I can't control the outcome, so why close? Why be frustrate? Why close off? Instead of think, why me? Think what for? Because if we really, truly have taken our dream and ritualized it and made it a thing that we do every day, if we take that. Whatever, whatever your why is, and put an action behind it that you can do every day and you ritualize that action. Episode four, we talked about that ritualizing your routine. I'm not saying anything religious here. I'm saying make it sacred. If this show is gonna be sacred to me and if this routine of showing up here and being aware and present and open for you is sacred to me, I better do it. Ironically, meaning rushes in after you move. I, I didn't find, I, I couldn't see the meaning this morning. My awareness wasn't there out my, it was so narrow, my awareness, until I took that one small step towards this show this morning and writing it and I was, I was like, well, how can I turn my situation right now into something positive? I am gonna have to show up. I'm gonna have to write something, and be aware of the fact that my duty is showing up, that my dream is showing up, that my why is that I know I'm affecting other people's lives and that I can help'em, and I have to show up that's behind every sacred action I take in the morning. That gets me to this show, that gets me to performing, that gets me to recording for you. So awareness reveals what can't continue? Presence begins before you feel ready and openness keeps the heart engaged when inspiration is lagging. I'll say all of that again. Awareness reveals what can't continue. This morning I, because I've been practicing wave riding, I saw what couldn't continue. I opened up my awareness. I had to be present before I was ready to, and I had to keep my heart engaged when my inspiration wasn't here. I didn't have inspiration this morning, but I had a lot of energy behind not wanting to be here, so I just used that like alchemy. I turned that lead right into gold, and I used it this morning for the message instead. Who knows, maybe this is my best episode, maybe it's my worst. I don't even know, but at least I showed up and I did it today and I learned, I practiced and I improved, and maybe someone else out there is gonna hear it. Wow. Well, yeah, I should show up today too. There was this thing that I wasn't gonna do, but what Lobro said makes a lot of sense. I, yeah, I might makes sense. I should do that. The undertow is not punishment. It's reminding you to participate. It's this undertow that awareness brings sometimes is insisting that you keep faith with what you've already seen. I've seen in my vision and in this show how it has affected people I've already know that. Yeah. As so, uh, Berlin says in chat you miss 100% of the shots. You don't take. If I, if, if I know showing up is the shot, I gotta take it. So maybe this will affect someone out there and improve their life. But I see, I see the undertow as insistence that life is reminding me. It's like a, it's like, it's like when you wake up and everything hits you all at once you're like, ah, shoot, I gotta do something. That's kind of what happened this morning. It fi, it finally hit me. It's res, the responsibility is the current, the undercurrent. That undercurrent is what keeps me going, that that responsibility is the undercurrent that keeps me going. It's reminding me to get up and keep going. I have to, I have to ride the wave. I can't get sunk underneath the pressure. One step at a time, show up. So let's zoom out for a second. How do you get out of a situation like this in the future? You gotta zoom out. You, you can't solve problems from the same perspective that they were brought with. I, I, I know I'm not saying that quote precisely. I know it's by, I believe Albert Einstein. It's something like that, but it's so true. You, you have to zoom out and look at everything and realize as soon as you zoom out from your narrow perspective of your issues, you can find gratitude real fast. If you find something to be grateful for, you'll find perspective because in order to find something to be grateful for. You have to look around and looking around means looking somewhere other than your narrow perspective of your life situation, your issue, the thing that you're hyper fixated on, that you won't let go of, that your is your problem right now. I know I'm speaking to someone out there. Zoom out. Remember your why. Take a sacred step forward. If you're gonna ride the wave, you have to show up anyway. Gotta show up, press record, speak the first line each next step. You can't think about all of the other steps ahead, just the, just the, just the one in front of you.'Cause that's being present. Movement restores your rhythm. If I were to take that break this morning and not be here, my rhythm would be off. If my, if my sacred routine is showing up and doing this each week and I don't show up, it's throwing me off. I gotta keep a rhythm, a steady rhythm to, to, to my life. Everyone does some sort of consistency. Then I need to remember to stay open. This all three goes back to the three principles of, "ride the wave," awareness, presence, and openness. Because if I stay open, I have to remember that closing off is just resistance to the issue, right? Duty turns to devotion when. Duty turns to devotion when we take that first step, because when we're aware of that responsibility and we take that first step, now we're finally putting it into action, right? So every wave rider will have this problem in their life. You'll find a day a thing that you don't wanna do, but you're gonna say, "to hell with that." I'm gonna show up today. I'm gonna do the recording. I'm gonna do the work because the only way forward is through. Fear is the compass. My fear of being here today as unfounded as it was, was pointing me to being here today. My fear of creating this show for so long is saying, Hey, it's, remember this example, it's life saying, "hey, over here. Pay attention." Fear is saying, "do this." Awareness makes the old life too small. Awareness, when it broadens your perspective and you start to see how small your issues really are, and you start to realize that you're keeping your heart closed, is only just having extreme preferences about the world. Your extreme preferences about how it should be instead. That's your resistance, is what you think the world should be instead. As soon as you accept the world as it is, work in relationship with it, take a step, now in the present, it's kind of like magic. I wasn't drowning anymore. All of a sudden I took a deep breath. I was like, oh, wow. I'm riding the wave again. Motivation follows action. The undertow is responsibility disguised as resistance. I thought it was me resisting this morning, but it was responsibility welling up inside of me and saying, let's go, Lobro. Every wave rider meets the undertow. The only way out is to remember why you ride. Move with the flow and keep your heart open as you do. But you can't keep up with that flow, you can't keep your heart open, if you don't take that next step. And you can't accept reality as it is unless you keep your heart open and accept. Accept yourself as you are, reality as it is, and take a small, incremental step forward. This is, this is your reminder right now that there's something out there that you know, I'm taking this a little deeper for you. There's something you know you're supposed to do, a responsibility, a dream, a passion, a thing that you really love to do that brings you to life. And if you don't know what it is, then this is your reminder to start looking for it. There's something out there that makes you come alive. Humans are natural creators. We all wanna create, build, or do something. We all wanna do something. What is that thing? And are you responsible for that dream? And if you are, what does it look like to show up for that dream today? What does it look like if you take that step forward and you show up for that, that passion, that that purpose that, I don't know, everyone has something different, but there's something that makes you come alive. And if you're not doing that, that this is your call. This is your reminder. This is me saying wake up. And do it. Failure is inevitable, right? You're gonna fail at something, okay? You can't be afraid of failing. That, that is how you get good at anything. You fail and you say, good. If I didn't stream today, I can look back and I can say, you know what? Good. I learned that was a bad move, but I did show up and I had the bad attitude beforehand and I didn't plan this week. And you know what? I learned? Bad move. There's something out there that makes you come alive. Go do it. That's all I have for you today. I love you. Go ride the wave.